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7/17/17 2:17 AM 

dark_gable0585
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General question. In regards of fwb, what is your turn ons and turns off when you have a fwb?




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7/17/17 3:06 AM 

bumblebee7
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Well..in general turn ons and turn offs would be the same, whether its a fwb, just dating or a real relation or marriage....or in the prospects of those options or not.

This in relations to people, you'd have them with or not.



If you meant the turn offs and ons, in relation to the idea of a FWB.....I'd guess if this is what both people decided to have, and their ground rules are the same.... then wouldn't be any turn offs to the idea of a fwb.


7/17/17 3:29 AM 
cavie59
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
General question. In regards of fwb, what is your turn ons and turns off when you have a fwb?


I have never had one and do not see that as the way to go for me. I personally prefer to have a monogamous relationship. Too many people have an FWB type of relationship in which one or both of the partners are seeing others. TOO much risk.


7/17/17 5:42 AM 

testsignup
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You mean pluses and minuses about the idea of Just-Friends Who Have Sex?

There are no "pluses," unless you happen to be someone who never sees sex as a meaningful loving interaction between people. I've known a very few people like that, who essentially never emotionally grew up past the stage of "ooh this is FUN!" with sex.

I've seen LOTS of people who didn't think it through, and got as far as "we can have sex with anyone and everyone we want, and not have to hide it!" And then the day they finally directly confront their "friend" in bed with someone else they know, they find out they really aren't all that "open minded" as they thought they were after all.

In short, "Friends With Benefits" is up there right next to "Mutually Assured Destruction."


7/17/17 6:42 AM 

kandykayn
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Only loose moral people have Fwb. It's just another way of saying you are a promiscuous wh*re.

The benefit of a exclusive relationship is sex.


7/17/17 6:46 AM 
cupocheer
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No!

7/17/17 7:04 AM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from testsignup:
You mean pluses and minuses about the idea of Just-Friends Who Have Sex?

There are no "pluses," unless you happen to be someone who never sees sex as a meaningful loving interaction between people. I've known a very few people like that, who essentially never emotionally grew up past the stage of "ooh this is FUN!" with sex.

I've seen LOTS of people who didn't think it through, and got as far as "we can have sex with anyone and everyone we want, and not have to hide it!" And then the day they finally directly confront their "friend" in bed with someone else they know, they find out they really aren't all that "open minded" as they thought they were after all.

In short, "Friends With Benefits" is up there right next to "Mutually Assured Destruction."
um...if I said turn ons and off....then yes


7/17/17 7:04 AM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from cupocheer:
No!
out


7/17/17 7:23 AM 
monkey_harris
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
General question. In regards of fwb, what is your turn ons and turns off when you have a fwb?


Why do you want to know what turns me on and off...you damn f*ggot!


7/17/17 7:38 AM 
cupocheer
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
out


Damn, Gabe. Nice pic Hawt Hawt Hawt

I think my panties are damp!


7/17/17 9:25 AM 

dr_i_got_answer
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The standards for a FWB is NOT as high as being Malady. A FWB will NOT have any part of my happily ever after.

Turn on:
No taller than 6'...
Gotta be clean...
Drug free (including weed), not a slut or a bar fly/slut...
NOT in it for the money bcuz I'm not paying SHIT! NO WH*RES!...

Fast, easy, trick types...
Women who get high...
Women who SEE NOTHING WRONG with having kids by men they don't know...

Ghetto, trailer trash, loud, obnoxious, argumentive, lot lizzard, aggressive types...


7/17/17 9:29 AM 
cupocheer
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Quote from dr_i_got_answer:
The standards for a FWB is NOT as high as being Malady. A FWB will NOT have any part of my happily ever after.

Turn on:
No taller than 6'...
Gotta be clean...
Drug free (including weed), not a slut or a bar fly/slut...
NOT in it for the money bcuz I'm not paying SHIT! NO WH*RES!...

Fast, easy, trick types...
Women who get high...
Women who SEE NOTHING WRONG with having kids by men they don't know...

Ghetto, trailer trash, loud, obnoxious, argumentive, lot lizzard, aggressive types...


Did you intend all of that as TURN ONs?


7/17/17 10:53 AM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from cupocheer:
Damn, Gabe. Nice pic Hawt Hawt Hawt

I think my panties are damp!
um....no


7/17/17 11:18 AM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from cavie59:
I have never had one and do not see that as the way to go for me. I personally prefer to have a monogamous relationship. Too many people have an FWB type of relationship in which one or both of the partners are seeing others. TOO much risk.


I'd RATHER have a committed relationship myself. But bcuz american women CONSTANTLY FAIL to meet my standards, worship gov't and run off at the mouth with all that "Jabba Jaw" bullshit it's highly probable that'll never happen. Unless it's a women of a foreign culture.

So in the meantime I see nothing wrong with having someone you can "Boogie Down" with as long as she can STAY ON HER PLACE, respect the boundaries and DON'T let her "feelings and emotions" start TWISTING SHIT into something it isn't.


7/17/17 11:25 AM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from dr_i_got_answer:
I'd RATHER have a committed relationship myself. But bcuz american women CONSTANTLY FAIL to meet my standards, worship gov't and run off at the mouth with all that "Jabba Jaw" bullshit it's highly probable that'll never happen. Unless it's a women of a foreign culture.

So in the meantime I see nothing wrong with having someone you can "Boogie Down" with as long as she can STAY ON HER PLACE, respect the boundaries and DON'T let her "feelings and emotions" start TWISTING SHIT into something it isn't.
you have to be upfront beforehand


7/17/17 11:26 AM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from cuposhit:
Did you intend all of that as TURN ONs?


Of course not idiot. Anyone with a brain can see o simply forgot to lable the 2nd list as ',Turn offs" whorbyn! But the simple fact the I labeled the first 1st separated the 2nd would suggest what o just said.

ONLY someone with a juvenile mindset and the incapability to communicate and comprehend on an AFULT would ask such a juvenile wuestion.

Children should seen not heard whorbyn!


7/17/17 11:29 AM 

mylegsarecold
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
General question. In regards of fwb, what is your turn ons and turns off when you have a fwb?

I don't do the fwb thing. If a women is good enough to have sex with then
she is good enough to call her my girlfriend in a relationship.


7/17/17 1:27 PM 

pickygirl72
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To me a FWB is a waste of my time. I would like to actually date the guy. Do a few outdoor activities a few times a month with sex included, but not be around him all the time. I do my thing and he does his thing and we meet in the middle a few times a month.

A FWB is just a bootie call for the man at weird hours of the day/night.

No thanks


7/17/17 2:05 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from pickygirl72:
To me a FWB is a waste of my time. I would like to actually date the guy. Do a few outdoor activities a few times a month with sex included, but not be around him all the time. I do my thing and he does his thing and we meet in the middle a few times a month.

A FWB is just a bootie call for the man at weird hours of the day/night.

No thanks
well it doesn't fit you anyway


7/17/17 2:06 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from mylegsarecold:
I don't do the fwb thing. If a women is good enough to have sex with then
she is good enough to call her my girlfriend in a relationship.
why are you here


7/17/17 3:49 PM 

sillylaugher61
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I one I had was great. we worked night shift on the weekends together.
we had a hand signal. when I did the hand signal to her, she would get all excited.
we would go have a beer or two then to my place for some good times!


7/17/17 4:04 PM 

packersbabe920
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Not into that fwb

7/17/17 4:05 PM 

packersbabe920
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Quote from mylegsarecold:
I don't do the fwb thing. If a women is good enough to have sex with then
she is good enough to call her my girlfriend in a relationship.



Agree


7/17/17 4:07 PM 

packersbabe920
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Quote from cupocheer:
Damn, Gabe. Nice pic Hawt Hawt Hawt

I think my panties are damp!




Picture is nice tho


7/17/17 4:10 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from testsignup:
You mean pluses and minuses about the idea of Just-Friends Who Have Sex?

There are no "pluses," unless you happen to be someone who never sees sex as a meaningful loving interaction between people. I've known a very few people like that, who essentially never emotionally grew up past the stage of "ooh this is FUN!" with sex.

I've seen LOTS of people who didn't think it through, and got as far as "we can have sex with anyone and everyone we want, and not have to hide it!" And then the day they finally directly confront their "friend" in bed with someone else they know, they find out they really aren't all that "open minded" as they thought they were after all.


1. "Just-Friends Who Have Sex?? Are u kidding me?? Who calls it that?? Would it have hurt you to type FWB?? This is a MAJOR CLUE to your logic and your reply to come.

2. Everyone IS NOT relationship material and there's a f**king truck load of reasons why. So to say someone never emotionally grew up bcuz they'd rather be single makes YOU what ally haters are claiming me to be.

3. As far as ppl NOT thinking it throu it's call a life experience! NOBODY comes out their mothers a** knowing EVERYTHING there is to know about relationships. We make bad decisions as we go and this is how we learn.

SO WHAT if some young person misjudge their feelings from lack of experience. It's a LESSON and life is full of them.


7/17/17 4:14 PM 
cupocheer
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Quote from dr_i_got_answer:
Of course not idiot. Anyone with a brain can see o simply forgot to lable the 2nd list as ',Turn offs" whorbyn! But the simple fact the I labeled the first 1st separated the 2nd would suggest what o just said.

ONLY someone with a juvenile mindset and the incapability to communicate and comprehend on an AFULT would ask such a juvenile wuestion.

Children should seen not heard whorbyn!


Oh, okay, Lud. Whatever you drink, have two.


7/17/17 4:27 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from kandykayn:
Only loose moral people have Fwb. It's just another way of saying you are a promiscuous wh*re.

The benefit of a exclusive relationship is sex.


I would agree ONLY if that person was taught better! But you can't hold someone responsible for what they DON'T KNOW! And what about those who aren't relationship material?

If a woman was taught by her mother that her p*ssy is a paycheck, men are ATM cards and kids are both plus a hood weapon to use to either control or destroy men then WHAT ELSE will she know??

How to keep house? How to be submissive to her man? How to cook a hot well balanced meal? How to nurture and care for others? F**k No! So who's to blame in that case? Her mom or HER for not exhibiting what she NEVER knew?

And sex should be the LAST thing on the list of benefits for an exclusive relationship not the ONLY or the FIRST.


7/17/17 4:33 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from cuposhit:
Damn, Gabe. Nice pic Hawt Hawt Hawt

I think my panties are damp!


You shouldn't be cross dressing whorbyn! And maybe you should see a Dr (not me lol) for the nasty secretions being discharged in your seat area.


7/17/17 5:15 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from ickygirl72:
To me a FWB is a waste of my time. I would like to actually date the guy. Do a few outdoor activities a few times a month with sex included, but not be around him all the time. I do my thing and he does his thing and we meet in the middle a few times a month.

A FWB is just a bootie call for the man at weird hours of the day/night.

No thanks


What you just described IS A FWB STUPID! Have you NOT had any sexual attention in so long that you forgot the difference? Or maybe your lack of getting sexual attention prevented you from ever knowing? Bcuz real men aren't attracted to Lurch or Andre the Giant.

You don't go out, have dinner maybe a movie movie, etc with a booty call stupid.


7/17/17 5:35 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from myassisbleeding
I don't do the fwb thing. If a women is good enough to have sex with then
she is good enough to call her my girlfriend in a relationship


You don't do the FWB thing bcuz you DON'T have any lady friends who will give you that benefit.

The friends you DO have all get the benefit of going deep up in you which explains why your a** can swallow a ??.

And the ?? explains why you love riding black dudes d*cks which is why you're constantly BLEEDING from your anal cavity.

That's why you feel that ANY woman who gives you sex is worth a relationship. Bcuz the LOWEST women/feminist would give you any and you WANT to do the poking for a change instead of BEING poked.

Why are you here??


7/17/17 5:45 PM 

deaf_heart
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Is there a need for you to have an opinion on everyone's post? Also, does this say, exactly: ONLY someone with a juvenile mindset and the incapability to communicate and comprehend on an AFULT would ask such a juvenile wuestion.



To answer opening post ... My sexual turn ons do not vary by the emotional level of relationship. It is always a touch on the soft skin of my thighs, belly, or hips. Or a gentle kiss on my collarbone. A whisper of desired intentions. Hands run through my hair using it to pull me closer but with gentleness. I am very much the romantic sensual lover type.


7/17/17 6:46 PM 

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Quote from deaf_heart:
Is there a need for you to have an opinion on everyone's post? Also, does this say, exactly: ONLY someone with a juvenile mindset and the incapability to communicate and comprehend on an AFULT would ask such a juvenile wuestion.



To answer opening post ... My sexual turn ons do not vary by the emotional level of relationship. It is always a touch on the soft skin of my thighs, belly, or hips. Or a gentle kiss on my collarbone. A whisper of desired intentions. Hands run through my hair using it to pull me closer but with gentleness. I am very much the romantic sensual lover type.


That last part got me breathing hard...


7/17/17 6:54 PM 

lucky_1million
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Hmm... I don't like it when somebody who is supposed to be a friend tries to grab my boobs or grab my a** while we are out in public.

That is a turn off.

A nice back massage (in a non-sexual area) is very my appreciated though.




tbh... my benefits package for friends isn't all that great.


7/17/17 7:32 PM 

driver406
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I suppose dinner and sex is the turn on.

I suppose pregnancy and fatherhood is the turn off.


7/17/17 8:03 PM 

enigmaathand
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
General question. In regards of fwb, what is your turn ons and turns off when you have a fwb?
Well, in FWBs, turn offs:
Prying into my personality
Trying to solve my problems
Trying to make me go out on "dates"
Trying to monopolize my time
Telling me I can't have sex with anyone else
Lying to me(This is universal for ALL WOMEN, regardless of what level relationship we have)
Being self-centered in the activities we do as friends(meaning only ever doing what they want to do and blowing me off when I want to do something)
Trying to pay for me to go do something requiring money or long-distance travel, after I have already declined because it isn't in my budget.(If there is one thing I HATE as much as LIARS, it is women trying to pay for me for anything).


7/17/17 8:29 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from lucky_1million:
Hmm... I don't like it when somebody who is supposed to be a friend tries to grab my boobs or grab my a** while we are out in public.

That is a turn off.

A nice back massage (in a non-sexual area) is very my appreciated though.




tbh... my benefits package for friends isn't all that great.


Hey lucky!

But the term "friend is subjective bcuz it has two meanings when used on the same text. One is "friend" as in platonic meanings "Nothing Sexual!" The other is "friend" as in intimate or FWB meaning we're not committed or obligated to each other but still choose to explore our attractions to each other.

The latter is often used as an option for those who are single, sexually compatible but not compatible as a couple though they do have fun hanging out and being open with each like platonic friends do.


7/17/17 8:32 PM 

M4mischief
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My turn off is a fwb...I wouldn't have one....

7/17/17 8:33 PM 

dr_i_got_answer
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Quote from deaf_heart:
Is there a need for you to have an opinion on everyone's post? Also, does this say, exactly: ONLY someone with a juvenile mindset and the incapability to communicate and comprehend on an AFULT would ask such a juvenile wuestion.


Was this meant for me??

You didn't assign a name tag and I DON'T want to assume deaf bcuz I KNOW how you can be.

So is this mine or someone else's??


7/17/17 8:34 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from dr_i_got_answer:
You don't do the FWB thing bcuz you DON'T have any lady friends who will give you that benefit.

The friends you DO have all get the benefit of going deep up in you which explains why your a** can swallow a ??.

And the ?? explains why you love riding black dudes d*cks which is why you're constantly BLEEDING from your anal cavity.

That's why you feel that ANY woman who gives you sex is worth a relationship. Bcuz the LOWEST women/feminist would give you any and you WANT to do the poking for a change instead of BEING poked.

Why are you here??
because he's a troll that said i have boobs.....kinda like his ex simpin and cheatin


7/17/17 8:35 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from deaf_heart:
Is there a need for you to have an opinion on everyone's post? Also, does this say, exactly: ONLY someone with a juvenile mindset and the incapability to communicate and comprehend on an AFULT would ask such a juvenile wuestion.



To answer opening post ... My sexual turn ons do not vary by the emotional level of relationship. It is always a touch on the soft skin of my thighs, belly, or hips. Or a gentle kiss on my collarbone. A whisper of desired intentions. Hands run through my hair using it to pull me closer but with gentleness. I am very much the romantic sensual lover type.
to whom are you referring to


7/17/17 9:02 PM 

enigmaathand
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Quote from pickygirl72:
To me a FWB is a waste of my time. I would like to actually date the guy. Do a few outdoor activities a few times a month with sex included, but not be around him all the time. I do my thing and he does his thing and we meet in the middle a few times a month.

A FWB is just a bootie call for the man at weird hours of the day/night.

No thanks
Yet, the BOLD is ironically, EXACTLY what a "friend with benefits" is....

I can see you don't have much experience in this area, picky....


7/17/17 9:03 PM 

enigmaathand
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Quote from mylegsarecold:
I don't do the fwb thing. If a women is good enough to have sex with then
she is good enough to call her my girlfriend in a relationship.
I smell a mangina entering the room.....the smell of bootlicking....


7/17/17 9:10 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
because he's a troll that said i have boobs.....kinda like his ex simpin and cheatin
I meant he acts like his ex


7/17/17 9:12 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Well, in FWBs, turn offs:
Prying into my personality
Trying to solve my problems
Trying to make me go out on "dates"
Trying to monopolize my time
Telling me I can't have sex with anyone else
Lying to me(This is universal for ALL WOMEN, regardless of what level relationship we have)
Being self-centered in the activities we do as friends(meaning only ever doing what they want to do and blowing me off when I want to do something)
Trying to pay for me to go do something requiring money or long-distance travel, after I have already declined because it isn't in my budget.(If there is one thing I HATE as much as LIARS, it is women trying to pay for me for anything).
you don't like women pay for You? I'm trying to understand


7/17/17 9:29 PM 

deaf_heart
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Killeen, TX

Quote from enigmaathand:
Well, in FWBs, turn offs:
Prying into my personality
Trying to solve my problems
Trying to make me go out on "dates"
Trying to monopolize my time
Telling me I can't have sex with anyone else
Lying to me(This is universal for ALL WOMEN, regardless of what level relationship we have)
Being self-centered in the activities we do as friends(meaning only ever doing what they want to do and blowing me off when I want to do something)
Trying to pay for me to go do something requiring money or long-distance travel, after I have already declined because it isn't in my budget.(If there is one thing I HATE as much as LIARS, it is women trying to pay for me for anything).
the bolded ... I am the same way. I won't accept a date if it is not in my budget to pay. Very few people have "gotten away" with covering my check while out with them.
Though I agree with most of your dislikes, I must have read the questions instead of reading between the lines.

Op, If you meant personality turns ons/offs I'll have to revise my answer.


7/17/17 9:46 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from M4mischief:
My turn off is a fwb...I wouldn't have one....
then why making a comment


7/17/17 9:47 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from deaf_heart:
the bolded ... I am the same way. I won't accept a date if it is not in my budget to pay. Very few people have "gotten away" with covering my check while out with them.
Though I agree with most of your dislikes, I must have read the questions instead of reading between the lines.

Op, If you meant personality turns ons/offs I'll have to revise my answer.
i asked you a question first.....with your first comment....who were you referring to


7/17/17 9:51 PM 

deaf_heart
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I guessed I assumed it was a trick question, since I quoted Doc's words in the post. Leave it to me to not know that wouldn't mean I was talking to him .

7/17/17 9:55 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from deaf_heart:
I guessed I assumed it was a trick question, since I quoted Doc's words in the post. Leave it to me to not know that wouldn't mean I was talking to him .
in the future please quote or do this@ so it won't cause a confusion....thank you


7/17/17 10:13 PM 

enigmaathand
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
you don't like women pay for You? I'm trying to understand
Correct. I do not let women pay my way, on activities, and as such I do not pay for them.

If I do go out with a lady friend, say to see a movie, I pay for my own concessions and admission, while she pays for her own.

When I say I treat women as my equal, I mean just that. They get no special courtesies, and I refuse any offers of extra courtesies from them.


7/17/17 10:17 PM 

enigmaathand
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Quote from deaf_heart:
the bolded ... I am the same way. I won't accept a date if it is not in my budget to pay. Very few people have "gotten away" with covering my check while out with them.
Though I agree with most of your dislikes, I must have read the questions instead of reading between the lines.

Op, If you meant personality turns ons/offs I'll have to revise my answer.
It is possible that you did not see between the lines. Which, that is fine.

I can explain what is between the lines for you. You don't seem to have a huge sense of narcissism or entitlement, which means you would probably understand them with an open mind. And if I am ot mistaken, you met a DH member from our forums, recently?

So, it is safe to say you are a real person.


7/17/17 10:23 PM 

lucky_1million
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Quote from dr_i_got_answer:
meaning we're not committed or obligated to each other but still choose to explore our attractions to each other.


Sure. That's one of the benefits of being friends. You get to learn more about each other without the pressure to commit to the dynamics of a relationship. You get to see if you enjoy spending time with each other and if you can treat each other with respect.


7/17/17 10:54 PM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from enigmaathand:
Correct. I do not let women pay my way, on activities, and as such I do not pay for them.

If I do go out with a lady friend, say to see a movie, I pay for my own concessions and admission, while she pays for her own.

When I say I treat women as my equal, I mean just that. They get no special courtesies, and I refuse any offers of extra courtesies from them.
ok gotcha


7/17/17 11:52 PM 

M4mischief
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Quote from dark_gable0585:
then why making a comment



Ummmmm because I can....


7/18/17 12:24 AM 
ltlwing
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Williamsburg, OH


No turn on about fwb, only turn offs. One being the most important...if I'm not good enough for anything other than a booty call. Then I don't think enough of myself in deserving something better to even be in one.

Some of us like to think of ourselves better than another hole being filled.


7/18/17 1:56 AM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from M4mischief:
Ummmmm because I can....
ummm but you not qualified


7/18/17 2:05 AM 
amusicluvr
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Intelligence, honesty, consideration, sense of humor.

7/18/17 3:08 AM 

evildjinn
New Orleans, LA

I couldn't tell ya. never had one. wouldn't be able to have one either... ever!.... not because I'm against it...NO! I'd love it! I just suck terribly in every aspect of ...ummm, everything... and I earned the knickname, "the wonders of microbiology", for an extremely good reason... so I sanded the tiny thing off with a belt sander years ago. It was such an embarrassment to everyone... It only hurt for a minute though, because it was microscopic...... and my tongue... my tongue, well, that's a different story altogether!... yep!..... that doesn't work either! it keeps falling out of my mouth, along with my lower jaw and teeth... and my nose unhooks, and comes off, and spews out green nasty unstable gelatin with black things, in it from my, hell, I don't know where it comes from... nope... I'm horrid in bed... hell, I'm horrid anywhere!


It's not braggin if it's true.




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7/18/17 10:07 AM 

dark_gable0585
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Quote from amusicluvr:
Intelligence, honesty, consideration, sense of humor.
look the simp is here


7/18/17 11:40 AM 

xman379
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Quote from kandykayn:
Only loose moral people have Fwb. It's just another way of saying you are a promiscuous wh*re.

The benefit of a exclusive relationship is sex.


This is not necessarily true.

1. Morals are subjective and varies from person to person.

2. Let us assume that not causing harm is a universal moral (which it is not), having a fwb does not necessarily violate that moral.

In my opinion the only significant moral is the law of reciprocity or golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

As long as being a promiscuous wh*re does not harm anyone, what is wrong with it?

One of the problems of monogamous relationships is the suppression of natural desires. Most humans naturally desire approval and pleasure. Each sexual "conquest" satisifies those desires.

It makes people feel approved of and of course there is pleasure, both physical and emotional.

There is hardly a better feeling than to know one is desired by many. This is why you often hear entertainers state that having the approval of their fans is worth MORE than the money they earn.

3. The TRUE benefit of a monogamous relationship is STABILITY and that's debatable. Have you checked out the statistics on divorce rates lately?